It’s been 2 years, 1 month, 1 week and 5 days since my little one drastically-yet-beautifully changed my name to “Mimmy” (my son’s lovely way of calling me “Mommy”). Actually, that “Mimmy” now evolved to “Mimmy-yah.” As to why and how, I really don’t know! But, I love the delightful thud it gives to my heart.
During one of our heart-to-heart talks, hubby and I would often enumerate some of the activities we can’t just do without considering our Marty’s schedule and preferences. Apart from the sexy and kinky stuffs (Ooooppsss, Rated 18!), I and hubby can’t just go on our late night movie date, out-of-town trip, movie marathon, sleep marathon, junkfoods marathon (in case there’s such thing to whole-day pigging-out of unhealthy foods), and long, late night talks. Funny, we sometimes have to
make takas do some things secretly. Feels like we’re teenagers all over again! Exciting, isn’t it?
Photo taken during our girlfriend-boyfriend years
Though, I honestly and wholeheartedly admit that we have lesser bonding time as a couple, our bonding time and Saturdates with Marty are just incomparable and extraordinarily happy. Priceless! As hubby would always say.
Early this week, I happen to read a beautiful blog shared to me by an officemate/friend/fellow mom. The link from this blog which she shared is entitled, To Wives: Before You Were “Mommy.” I have also read a couple of the author’s blogs after that, but this specific topic is really dear to my heart because it speaks of my current feelings and state of mind. Here’s an excerpt of the blog:
Ladies, there will come a day when your husband walks in the door and you do not turn around. You will be preoccupied with filling up sippy cups and wiping booties. You will shout over the running bath water, “Hey! Glad you’re home.” But it won’t mean what it used to mean. It won’t be full of eager anticipation to spend time together. It will be full of expectations to aid in the demands of the family. “Glad you’re home,” will more properly translate, “Thank God for two extra hands to help me.” And “Praise the Lord I might get five minutes alone.”
Ladies, there will come a day when you spend every last ounce of yourselves on your children. The demands of life and the babies will come before any other priority. What little of yourself you have left at the end of the day will be used to crawl into bed before someone is awake to need you again. The thought of doing anything else after the children are asleep will sound impossible and your handsome husband’s happy smile had better mean he is willing to get up with the baby and nothing more.
The husband that once completed your heart will be just one more person who needs you. The charming things that you fell for will go unnoticed. The daily grind will become expected.
Men, there will come a time when that beautiful bride sitting next to you hasn’t showered in days. She will be at her wit’s end wearing other people’s food and poop on her clothing. She will need to hear that she is beautiful, but she won’t listen to you. She will need to know that she is still lovable, but she won’t want you near her. When you arrive home after meeting the demands of work, you will be expected to meet the demands of your family. Your wife will hear none of your exhaustion, and you will see none of hers.
Men, you will call home to ask a quick question and anticipate a two-minute conversation. Half of it will be spent listening to your wife talk to your kids. As a matter of fact, you will make it no more than a few sentences in to any conversation ever before your wife spurts out direction to your children.“Don’t climb that!” or “Don’t sit on your sister!” You will become accustomed to these outbursts, but you will forget that there was ever a time when you had her full attention.
With our 2-year old toddler, Marty
But Ladies, when Mommy becomes your name, remember this man. Remember that you are his wife. Remember how much you love and appreciate him in this moment. Remember his dedication to your family. Remember his love and devotion to you. And then, when the days are long and you need a break, fall into his arms.
Men, remember your bride. The care and love that she has given you will soon be spilled over to your children. Her love for you will not change. Give her the grace to be enough even when she doesn’t feel like it. Remember when your days are long, hers are too. Remember her. Fall in love with her again.
Remember each other. Remember the two that made the family. Let the Lord lead you both together. Because when the days are endless and the hours short, it will only be His love who keeps you together. It will only be His mercy that gently guides your hearts as one. Hold tightly to one another, and even more tightly to the Lord. There is no greater adventure for you to experience and no greater gift than to walk through parenthood with your best friend. You are a team. Every single day.
This blog is by far one of the best blogs I have read on the topic of parenting associated to relationships of married couples. I was actually teary-eyed while reading this blog (Forgive me, I’m such a cry baby!).
Photo taken during one of our Saturdates
Sharing with you this wonderful blog and hoping that we may all enjoy this fantastic journey of parenthood and continue to enrich our relationship with our lifetime partners. After all, our kids deserve parents who are abundantly happy wives, husbands, siblings, daughters, sons, entrepreneurs, employees, and all the other aspects of our lives I forgot to mention.
Always happy and amazed with life’s journey,