Tell yourself: Stop comparing, start living!

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There are days that I feel less happy, unappreciated, abused, and used.  (Disclaimer: Well, these never happened in my personal and family life.  My life as a daughter, sister, mother, and wife will always be my source of happiness no matter how challenging it may seem at times.)

Admittedly, there are moments that I feel I just needed to make that one big, drastic, and quick decision that will change everything (hopefully for the better).  These moments often happen whenever I feel envious of other people’s lives.  Not realizing that I should be grateful enough that I’m living my life and that I’m blessed with the things that I have.  But as a normal person that I am, I recognize that these instances are inevitable.  After all, life is meant to be live well and not to be lived perfectly.

Sharing with you this beautiful article from Bo Sanchez that tackles one of my life’s pressing issue right now.

Living life well,
Mumay

 

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Stop Comparing Yourself

We live in a pathologically dissatisfied world.

And I’m going to tell you why.

Because we love to compare.

Go around the world and discover that people aren’t happy with their bodies. Filipinos want to be fair complexioned like Westerners and so buy bleaching stuff.  Westerners want to own bronzed-bodies like ours and so purchase tanning lotions.  Those with moles have them removed while those who don’t have any strategically implant beauty spots.  Some people want to shed a few pounds to look like Ally Macbeal while others want to gain some baby fat to look like Drew Barrymore.   When are we ever going to stop and simply be happy with how we look?

We live in a sick world, I tell you.

And that sickness is comparisonitis.

Take a look at wealth.

When we drive our old Toyota, it really suits us fine.  We feel blessed in fact when the rain pours outside and we feel snug and cozy on its faded upholstered seats.  But the moment we see our own officemate (or neighbor, or buddy, or cousin, or brother) drive his sleek black Lexus, we automatically feel like third class children of God.  Next time we drive our bumpy, noisy, rusted, dilapidated Toyota (notice how all the defects come out all of a sudden?), we feel deprived, dispossessed, pariahs, total failures, debased, and only a little higher than the insects of the earth.

Listen carefully.

Bill Gates’ total assets is $60 billion.  That’s more than the GNP of some small countries.  Tiger Woods earns $80 million simply by smiling on TV with a Nike shirt.  And some of the stars of TV sitcoms are paid $1 Million per episode.

My point?   No matter how hard you work, there’ll still be some people who will be richer than you are.  And there’ll be some people who will be more beautiful, have more sex appeal, have more boyfriends, and have more problems.

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Try it for once.  Stop looking around.  Don’t compare!

Don’t compare her nose with your nose.

Don’t compare his wife with your wife.

Don’t compare his salary with your salary.

Don’t compare her breast size with your breast size.

Don’t compare her kid’s report card with your kid’s report card.

Don’t compare his prayer group with your prayer group.

Don’t compare her cellulite deposits with your cellulite deposits.

For crying out loud, stop comparing and start living!

And you’ll be happier with your life, I guarantee.

This is crucial: The most difficult thing in the world is to be who you are not.  Pretending and trying to be someone else is the official pastime of the human race.  (I don’t think dogs and cats and cows and horses have this problem.)

And the easiest thing in the world is to be yourself.

Be happy.  Live!   There must be a reason why God made you tall or short or fat or thin or bumpy all over.

Love who you are!

May your dreams come true,
Bo Sanchez

When the going gets tough, carry on!

The past weeks can be considered as one of the uninteresting episodes of my life – failure, rejection, disappointment, and unhappiness have been my daily companion.  Things aren’t going the way I wanted them to happen.

Suddenly, life felt like fighting battles where I’m destined to lose from the beginning…  Life felt like believing in false hopes… Life felt like being abused and used by people who capitalize over other peoples’ capabilities…

I’m glad, God blessed me with a friend who shared me this wonderful story:

Don’t Count Yourself Out Yet
Your life is a story. Your current circumstances are just an episode. The final and most important chapter of your life is till to be written. You may not understand your current circumstances. What is happening in your life now may seem unrelated to where you would want your life to be. Your situation may seem unfair. There are times you’ll feel you’re lagging behind or moving in the opposite direction to where you want to go. When you look around you it often seems as if everyone else is advancing and passing you by. Fight the urge to compare yourself with others or complain to God. You may not be where you thought you would be in life. Fear not. WPicture1ith a single touch God can turn your loss in gain. With a single touch God can make up for your lost time. With a single touch God can restore everything you’ve lost. With a single touch God can put your life into cruise control and fast-track things for you. “May the favor of the Lord our God rest on you.” Psalm 90:17

Another blessing came few days before my 32nd birthday when I attended our church service and heard about Job’s story who experienced the worst trials anyone can ever imagine:  lost of all his material possessions, death of his children, getting a horrible disease, and his faith being challenged by his wife…

Just when the church service is about to end, the minister asked this question that kept reminding me of God’s promise of hope: “Kabutihan lang ba ang kaya mong tanggapin sa Diyos?”  Such question was like a wake-up call that what I’m going trough right now is just another rough patch, just another bump in the road…

 
Carrying on,
Mumay