Yes, I’m Expecting Baby Number 2!!!

A lot of friends and acquaintances I met during the past weeks are surprised seeing me with a baby bump.  Some can’t even contain their shock and would even comment, “Buntis ka pala!” (“I didn’t know you were pregnant!”).  I don’t understand why there is a need to hype someone else’s pregnancy.  But probably with the increasing usage of social media for wedding announcements, travel diaries, OOTDs, and even just to share to the world your “hey-I-just-bought-a-new-expensive-shoes” announcement, a lot of pregnant moms can’t help but share their journey online.

I’m now on my 26th week and this is the first time I’m officially sharing my journey with baby number 2.  It all started when I bought an over-the-counter pregnancy test kit and took a test on the morning of December 18, 2015 because I was suspecting something due to fatigue and nausea that I’m experiencing. Lo and behold, the two red lines confirmed my suspicion!

My version of an epic I’m-going-to-be-a-mom (again) announcement 🙂

Unlike my first pregnancy, this one is well-planned, though a bit hard at the onset.  My pregnancy with my first-born is such a breeze… Things went too fast that I didn’t even notice I’m already on my third trimester.  This time, I had experienced spotting and had to stay in bed for one week.  Blame it on my age!  Good thing, I was on vacation leave for the December holidays.

 

No Tutu, No Pink Dresses, No Princess-Inspired Parties

Another surprise on this pregnancy is the gender of the little one inside my tummy.

Since our first-born is a boy, we were expecting that we’ll be blessed with a girl this time.  Although I keep saying that whatever the gender of our baby is, it’s okay with me as long as he/she is healthy.  I was probably wayyyyyyyyyyy too confident that we’ll have a baby girl.  What most mom call their mini-me’s.

But over a month after knowing our second child’s gender, reality sinks in… Yes, we’re having a boy!  There will be no tutu, no pink dresses, no princess-inspired parties, no debutant parties (I guess, in this lifetime)…

The playroom will be filled again with blue colors, action figures, toy cars.  But, it doesn’t mean that our home will not be filled with pure love and joy.

Hello, little one! Mommy, can’t wait to see you and to hug you!

Imperfect, but Completely Happy

Most people visualize perfect families as composed of mom, dad, son and daughter.  I, once upon a time, even visualized mine to be like that.  But, yes… God moves in mysterious ways.  Sometimes too mysterious that it takes time for us to accept and understand when His answer is “No.”

Truly, this is a humbling experience for me as a mom.  I know life will be more challenging in the coming months and years with two energetic boys in tow.  But who am I to complain?  Being a mom the second time around and being able to give our first-born Marty a sibling is more than enough for me to be grateful.

Life may not always be perfect.  Life may not always turn out the way we expect them to be.  But, yes… I’m completely happy and I can’t wait to be pampered as the only “queen of the household.”

 

Terribly blessed,
Mumay

It’s Fun, Fun, Fun at Sta. Elena Fun Farm!

Over a month ago (yes! that’s how long I delayed posting this blog), we went to the Fun Farm at Sta. Elena in Laguna for Marty’s “Moving Up Ceremony.”  Unlike the usual kids-in-toga-and-parents-in-formal-attire type of ceremony, kids and kids-at-heart alike enjoyed this ceremony/field trip.

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For the kids, they enjoyed running around and learning from outside of the four walls of a classroom.  The kids enjoyed playing around, away from television and gadgets.  They were all restless and didn’t mind the weather.  Well, it’s not a typical hot afternoon at the Fun Farm because of the gigantic trees that blocked the scorching heat of the sun.

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Our son, Marty, enjoyed the swing a lot with his classmate

 

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Fishing is indeed a father-and-son bonding thing

 

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All smiles for the carabao-drawn carriage, a first for our son Marty

 

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Marty enjoyed riding the zipline too that he tried it several times over!!!

 

For the adults, it gave us time to commune with nature and enjoy quality time with our kids.  It was so much fun and the Php 300/head entrance fee is so worth it that we didn’t notice it was already time to go… Uh-oh!  Indeed, time flies sooooo fast when you’re having fun.

Yes, we don’t have a typical graduation or moving-up ceremony photo.  But I will definitely trade all the “could-have-been” ceremonial photos just to have a similar fine afternoon with my family.  🙂

 

Having loads of fun moments,
Mumay

Where will you be in 5 years?

Day 15.  I missed blogging a lot.  I missed the joy it brings me for every written words.  Apart from my busy 2016, I must admit that I purposely delayed writing this blog because of the mandated topic I have to write about.  As you notice, my 30-day blogging challenge is taking years!  But, I swear not to stick to the topics until I finish the challenge.

Why did I purposely delay writing this blog?  First, because I dread answering this question.  Second, I dread telling the world of my plans.  So often times when I am asked with this question during job interviews, I always give the most ‘showbiz’ answer like: “I see myself having a flourishing career in your organization and continuously contributing to its growth.”  🙂  How corny!  Probably, the reason why I failed in some of my job interviews.  Haha!

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So, let me give you a glimpse of my future the non-‘showbiz’ way (while fervently praying that my boss won’t see this blog).

As a career woman, I see myself making my passion my profession.  I remember stumbling upon this question when I answered a survey:  “What will you be doing or where will you be working today if money is not an issue?”  My answers would always be, writing, reading, learning and teaching.  I’m the type of person who embraces new learning.  That’s why I’m not afraid of going out of my comfort zone, of starting projects from scratch, and of researching “How Tos.”  There is a wealth of possibilities with making my passion my profession.  But, I’d consider continuing to write and self-publishing books as part of my plans.  I say ‘continue’ because I was able to write and self-publish my first book last December 2015.

As a mother, a wife, a daughter, and a sister, I see myself having a wealth of opportunities to spend more time with my love ones. I see myself as the best mom, the best wife, the best daughter, and the best sister my family could ever have.  With this, I see myself building my own money machines – stocks, mutual funds, businesses, real estate investments.  Money machines that will allow me to earn passive income and will give me not just financial, but ‘social’ freedom.

Indeed, that’s 5 years, or 6 months, or 1,825 days, or 43,800 hours, or 2,628,000 minutes.  It doesn’t matter how you count by years, months, days, hours or minutes, what matters is how you enjoy this journey called life.

In the meantime, I allow myself to triumph, to fail, to dream, to succeed, to get disappointed.  That’s all part of the journey and I’m embracing it with all certainty that in five years… something beautiful is yet to unfold. (excited)

Enjoying the journey,
Mumay

Gone Too Soon… Farewell, Courageous Caitie!

Almost a month ago, I stumbled upon the FB page created by her parents for Courageous Caitie when I stalked one of my acquaintances’ FB page.  At that time, she wasn’t diagnosed yet with juvenile myelomonocytic leukemia (JMML) – a rare type of cancer that affects one in a million children in the U.S.  The photos posted by her parents on her FB page are disheartening. I can’t imagine how a 3-year old fragile, little girl managed to undergo all the lab tests, the pricks, the long hours in the hospital.

But the unwavering love of her family and courage of this little girl got me hooked that I ended up checking on her FB page as often as I can.  Their story is very inspiring especially those who are at the stage of their lives that are giving up, losing sight of their dreams, and battling their own monsters.

It’s heartbreaking to know that Caitie died yesterday after months of her courageous battle.   I don’t know their family personally but more than Caitie, I salute her parents for their strength despite what they’ve been through. She must have inherited her courage from her more courageous parents.

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The photo that made me cry a river yesterday; Photo grabbed from: https://www.gofundme.com/8ssauc3v

If there’s one thing I learned from this story, that’s relieving my love for my family.  Caitie may not have stayed long enough with her parents – Feliz and well-known wedding photograper Jay Jay Lucas, but that doesn’t mean that they didn’t enjoy the short time they had together.  It may sound hackneyed, but following Courageous Caitie’s battle reminded me to spend more quality time with my family.  It gave me a better look at my life right now and reminded me of my number one priority in life – my family.

Ending this blog, I’d like to share a quote from one of my favorite novels entitled Love, Anthony which was written by Lisa Genova (author of “Still Alice”).

 

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Living life to the fullest,
Mumay

Book Review: Me Before You

I stumbled upon this book one evening while peaking at photos in Instagram.  One photo captured my attention – teary-eyed Lovi Poe holding a book by Jojo Moyes.  I was intrigued with the photo and with the caption that the actress finished reading the novel despite her busy schedule.  It must have been a really nice novel!  So, I gave it a try.

Photo grabbed from Lovi Poe's instagram post

Photo grabbed from Lovi Poe’s instagram post

As a self-confessed bookworm, I immediately took a plunge and didn’t even bother to read the synopsis or any blurb written about the novel.

At the start, I thought that it is just a typical rich-man-meets-poor-girl story.  It was a bit boring at some point.  Too boring that it took me more than two weeks to finish reading it.  Or, blame my #AuthorProject!  (Yes, I’m publishing my own book soon!  More stories about it on my upcoming blogs!).  🙂

Eventually, I find reading the novel enjoyable that I often have extended comfort room usage to read a few pages of the book.  (Ssssshhhh!  Don’t tell my toddler!)

The characters of Will Traynor, Lou Clark, Treena, and Mrs. Traynor are unforgettable!  Each of them has a story to tell.

I didn’t cry a bucket of tears after reading the novel.  But it gave me a new learning.   I guess more than the emotions, my key take-away in reading books is the additional knowledge that I gain.

In the novel “Me Before You,” I learned about the “Dignitas” – an advocacy group based in Switzerland with a mission to “Live in Dignity, Die in Dignity.”  “Dignitas” is know for being an assisted-suicide facility when I researched online.  But as I dig for information online, they have also done various ways on counseling members and on preventing suicide attempts.

I guess it’s not the love story that made the novel heartbreaking, it’s the story (#hugot) that inspired the novel.  It’s so sad that while we stress over trivial things, a small population is contemplating on whether to go to Dignitas or not.  It’s just so heartbreaking.

But, I guess life is a matter of perspective.  It’s a blessing if you wish to see it as a blessing, and it is a curse if you feel trapped in it.

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Seeing life as a blessing,
Mumay

 

Make your dreams happen…

Okay.  I’m shying away from my “30-day blogging challenge” topics today.

I could be a little emotional too.  Forgive me, if I do.

For more or less three months now, I’ve been very busy writing my first ever book.  Though it’s far from my long-time dream of writing a historical fiction novel, it’s still quite an accomplishment for me.

As many inspirational speakers say, “Don’t wait for your dreams to happen, make your dreams happen.”  So, I’m now doing my part – I’m making one of my dreams happen.

After enrolling in a 90-day writing class, spending numerous hours writing, and reading several materials related to my book’s topic, I was finally able to get my ISBN (International Standard Book Number) for my book.  An ISBN is a unique numeric commercial book identifier, which is important when you are publishing a book.

photo c/o the blogger

Photo c/o the blogger

Since I’m self-publishing my book, I had to do all the legwork.  I had to register my own publishing company.  I had to look for my own editor and negotiate for the rates and timelines.  I had to do rough design of the book myself before turning it over to my handsome artist (my hubby 🙂 ).  I had to contact a printer.  And yes, I and my hubby had to endure the back-breaking Metro Manila traffic to apply for ISBN at the National Library of the Philippines.

I’m not complaining.  In fact, I’m enjoying the entire process and am glad that I’m doing almost everything myself.

I know this is just the start of a new chapter of my life.

I know that there will still be a lot of stumbling blocks, but I’m sooooo ready!

As Chris Gardner said in the movie Pursuit of Happyness, “If you want something, go get it.  Period.”

No hesitations.  No excuses.  No turning back.

 

Making things happen,
Mumay

3 Health Habits

Day 14.  I’m not a health buff.  If health buff means working out in a gym everyday and eating well-balanced meals, which means saying goodbye to chicharon (pork rind), liempo (grilled pork), ice cream and other foods dieters forbid us to consume.  I’m not against dieters, though!  In fact, I have huge respect for them for being too disciplined to stick to specific meal plans.

My current weight is ideal for my age and height by chance, not by choice.  Thanks to my genes!  However, my waist measures way over (or almost double… ssssssshhhhh!) my waistline during my teens.  But, my 30-day blogging challenge says that I should blog my 3 Health Habits… (Thank God I only need to share 3 health habits, otherwise, I’ll be lost for words already!)

Drink Lots of Water.  If there’s one health advice that I can follow without much effort, that will be drinking at least 8 glasses of water everyday.  I can drink tons and tons of water without anybody reminding me to, and I’m not a

photo grabbed online; credits to the original owner of the photo

photo grabbed online; credits to the original owner of the photo

fan of flavored and carbonated drinks.  I also heard from somebody that drinking a glass of warm water in the morning or 30 minutes before taking any solid food, helps the digestive system.  Ever since I learned about that, I’ve been doing it for so many years already.  I can attest that it helped me to move (moving you-know-what…) regularly.

UTI has never been my problem as well since I’ve been drinking water and peeing regularly, which cleanses my bladder.  Increased water intake also help me lessen my food intake, thereby, managing my weight (a bit).

Sleep Like a Baby.  Most people who know me pretty well knows that my only luxury in life is a sound, uninterrupted sleep.  I can sleep for 8 hours and skip a meal.

photo grabbed from cutebabywallpapers.com

photo grabbed from cutebabywallpapers.com

This is true even when I was still single and deprived of sleep where I needed to spend an average of 5-hour travel to work.  At that time, I had to be resourceful extend my nap times while riding a bus, a jeepney, and yes, even a tricycle!

So, whenever I have the opportunity to snooze (during weekends and holidays) I make sure that I sleep like a baby.  Yes, those are the most refreshing and relaxing days of my life!

Say No to Stress.  I’m not a fan of YOLO (You. Only. Live. Once.)  thinking.   But there are certain instances that I use such statement.  Like, when:

photo from Fotolia

photo from Fotolia

  • “I don’t want to fret about trivial issues, after all, YOLO.”
  • “So what if it’s raining hard today and I have an early morning meeting?  YOLO!”
  • “It’s okay even if I missed my deadline, I won’t stress myself out because YOLO!”
  • and many more…

Yes, there are too many reasons to say, “Bye, bye stress!  I have only one life and I’m not letting you ruin it!”

Among the three, Saying No To Stress is my favorite.  After all, there are a lot of dreaded and life threatening diseases obtained because of too much dose of stress.

 

Enjoy life,
Mumay